Ojo: The "Cholo Word Of The Day" is simply for fun. This is not an academic exercise, therefore I do not spend much time checking for espelling or grammatical errors. Most of the words are not only used by "cholos," but by many people in S. Texas - and their usage can vary. c/s

Monday, December 06, 2004

Who Helps?

My friend (the one I spat my beer on) and I were talking about careers and the fact that we don't know many Latinos living in Dallas - or that we don't consider many Latinos friends. We go to the happy hours, do some volunteering, and other stuff, but we really don't know any Raza. She's kind of fresia and from Houston and I'm puro Rascuache Chicano from the Valley. I've been known to say that I don't like Dallas Mexicans. They're just different. I'll stick to my Valley kids. I don't have much in common with the Dallas raza that run in the circles that I do. I have more in common with the Mexican immigrants that come and clean the offices three times a week. I can talk to them for hours -- the kids my age, 2 minutes.

Anyway, as racist or elitist as that conversation may have sounded, we continued (after I spat my beer on her). I will soon be leaving my job and moving somewhere South. So, we started talking about people who have helped us succeed as professionals and in education. We were both hard-pressed to name more than a couple of Latinos whom we considered have had a significant impact in our lives, save our familias. I named a couple of gringos, a couple of chinos, and struggled to name Latinos. She did too. We wondered, why that was so. She quickly exclaimed "it's because we keep each other down." I disagreed, but didn't really have an argument. I told her that maybe it's that there are not enough Latinos in those positions of power to go around - and maybe that's why we've never seen them in our lives like that.

Come to think of it - the two (and only) Latina bosses I have ever had - screwed me royally. The gringo and the chinos are still helping me. Wow - that sucks (not the help, the fact that I got screwed). And that's exactly what we both said to each other as she wiped the beer/spit off her face.

I don't know what it is. I wish I could explain it. I wish it weren't like that. Man, I'm a former MECHistA, for crying out loud.


Blogger cindylu said...

I can't relate to you and your Houston friend on this one. All of my mentors as faculty have been Raza and even in work I've had many Raza advisors, and counselors who have helped me out. Is it a Texas thing? I have no idea. I don't think I've ever been "royally screwed" by a Raza boss or anything. If I look at things before college, I could probably relate. Oh yeah, I'm a (former) MEChistA too.

4:03 PM

Blogger Elenamary said...

I totally understand how ya feel. I don't indentify well with Chicanos. I am a Mexicana in Central Ohio. Quien habla espa~nol, quien es una fresa de mexico quien no se lleva con pochos ni chicanos pero mas bien con mexicanos de mexico pero sabes conoci un chicano en louisiana quien era de Colorado me encanteria cojerle....yeah

6:54 PM

Blogger oso said...

La Ley de Herodes:

"O se chingan o se joden."

11:09 PM

Blogger Aleksu said...

Do you know the joke about the bucket of Mexican prawns?

7:41 AM

Blogger seyd said...

Perhaps you're not finding the right circles of Dallas Mexicans. Just last saturday I discovered the Chorizo and Menudo breakfasts that Domingo García hosts in Oak Cliff, and met a bunch of cool people, just to mention a few of the people who were there: Lupe Valdez ( our new latina lesbian sheriff ), Ruben Navarette ( Dallas Morning News ), y el consul de México en Dallas. Dallas is becoming rapidly more and more progressive, let's stick around...

12:16 PM

Blogger Frederick's Mom said...

Hey, I would never know what you mean about mexicans other than us valley people! haha, no salgo del rancho! haha

3:24 PM

Blogger Diana said...

Can totally relate. Here in Chi-Town there are very few Latino's that are going to give you a helping hand.

8:38 PM

Blogger Alma said...

Yo estuve alli con Seyd y estoy totalemente de acuerdo con el. Las personas que conocimos este fin de semana me son totalmente impresionantes. En realidad me inspiraron. Todavia esta pendiente nuestro encuentro con Seyd - cuando quieras. Bye!

10:42 AM

Blogger xicano said...

Asi es la raza...how sad que no?

11:18 AM


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